How Traveling the World Can Help you Succeed in Life

About 100 years ago, commercial airplanes were first introduced (although they were much smaller and slower than today’s planes and highly uncomfortable).

Over the decades, it’s become easier and cheaper to fly than ever before.

If you told someone a century ago that they could hop on a plane from the US and be in Europe within 8 hours or less for a couple hundred bucks, they’d call you crazy.

But crazy back then is what’s normal now.

It’s fascinating and something that all of us should take advantage of, especially considering how cheap flights can be!

So how exactly can traveling help you succeed in life?

Getting out of your comfort zone

By traveling you can take a dive into the unknown, aka get the fuck out of your comfort zone.

In many aspects of our lives, we LOVE to remain in our element where we know exactly what’s going to happen and when. Where we are in as much control as we possibly can convince ourselves that we are in.

By exploring new frontiers, you put yourself completely out of your zone of comfort and into the depths of who really knows?!?!

In doing so, you can come to the realization that your worst case scenarios aren’t always as bad and exaggerated as you make them out to be in your head.

You can use these experiences as a reference for situations in your life when you are stuck or difficult decisions have to be made. When you remember that taking a leap of faith into new adventures could be positively impactful, it could make your circumstances much easier to see through.

Experiencing new cultures

When you branch out and expand your horizons, you get to discover new worlds that you would’ve never realized existed previously.

There are so many unique places in the world (almost 200 countries!) and with that comes a plethora of different cultures to experience. From the food, clothing, art, architecture and language, to rituals and ways of living that are truly a sight to see.

When we visit other places, we instinctively compare and contrast them to what we have and how we live. We begin to recognize the tiny details when we interact with natives to the countries we visit and how they go about living their lives.

You cannot put a price tag on these experiences, the new perspectives that you gain and the lifetime of memories that are created from them.

Cultivating gratitude for your life

After traveling and returning back to your normal life, you begin to realize how grateful you are for the small things.

For having warm water to shower in, air conditioning, a car, clean streets, minimal crime, ability to pursue goals, etc.

When you physically witness the way others live in different countries, you discover just how much opportunity you truly have at your fingertips.

It enables you to think from a bigger picture and understand that you really have the chance to make your life any way you envision it being.

The more you travel the more you begin to level up and go deeper into what life is all about, which is growing your gratitude, gaining new experiences, learning from them and incorporating them into making your life as fulfilling as it can be!

“Travel is the only thing you buy that makes you richer” – Unknown

The Impact that Personal Growth and Self Discovery has on our Loved Ones

If you’re reading this you more likely than not are seeking methods to improve your quality of life, which is terrific and something you should be very proud of.

Seriously.

Unfortunately, most fuck everything up by holding the belief that if they can generate a certain amount of financial income, that only then can they accelerate their happiness levels as well as those closest to them.

It’s not your fault. It’s our environment. It’s what we were conditioned to think and believe since we were youngins.

With this ingrained and limiting view, you allow your behaviors and thoughts to seek validation for it and begin to take action towards it.

The problem with this concept is the belief that something external (money) can bring us what we really seek (gratitude, fulfillment, freedom and happiness).

A sense of gratitude, fulfillment, freedom and happiness are internal feelings. They’re developed from within you, NOT from you getting a new job or a bonus or even winning the lottery and adding an extra few zeros to your bank account.

For real, winning the lottery does NOT make you happier.

Even if you were to increase the amount of money you make, the elusive sensations of fulfillment and happiness are not going to just magically hop onto your shoulders and ride the remaining wave of life with you.

It can takes years, decades, even LIFETIMES of hard work and practice to acquire these coveted qualities consistently over the course of one’s life.

The statement above may hurt and offend, but it’s a hard truth. One that you must learn to accept.

What’s incredible about the process of personal growth and self-discovery (something that I’ve been actively working on for some time now) is just how much of a positive impact your existence and thirst for knowledge and execution of that knowledge can have on others.

Those you love in particular.

While many of us always seek to take care of our family and friends in some way shape or form, we primarily and subconsciously seek to improve ourselves.

Our health, productivity levels, how much we have in our wallet/bank account, etc.

We read self-help books on habits that we need to create as well as those we must eliminate.

We listen to podcasts that inspire and motivate us to want to take action and take the steps towards financial freedom.

We watch documentaries of those who have faced tremendous adversity and overcame it with a incredible sense of ambition and determination to succeed.

But regardless if we are able to achieve success financially, simply performing these acts day in and day out, working on improving ourselves and our well-being physically, mentally, spiritually and emotionally, we can discover that success isn’t what brings happiness, but that in fact happiness is what brings success.

When you take action to educate yourself (on how to get motivated, become happier, become more grateful, to start your own business, to become more positive, to question your beliefs, your thinking patterns, etc), you begin to learn new and exciting concepts and ideas, forcing your brain to literally start growing new neurological pathways.

This level of tenacity and insatiable hunger to want to achieve and become a more improved and better YOU paradoxically allows you to make an impact on your loved ones in a way that MONEY NEVER CAN.

Your elevated sense of awareness, confidence and positivity that you undoubtedly begin to possess is massively contagious.

Those you surround yourself with can immediately feel and sense the new and heightened version of you. And if they truly love you, they’ll not only be happy and grateful for you, but also take it and implement it into their life.

So keep on going.

Take control of your life, constantly better yourself for the greater good and watch as your own self improvement casts a beacon, luring in those around you to reach new heights.

“I know I’m fortunate to live an extraordinary life, and that most people would assume my business success, and the wealth that comes with it, have brought me happiness. But they haven’t; in fact it’s the reverse. I am successful, wealthy and connected because I am happy.” – Richard Branson

Learning to Master Your Emotions While Embracing Any Situation

We like to believe that we have more control of our lives and emotions than we really do.

When something doesn’t go as planned, most of us get angry or agitated.

But could it be that we set ourselves up for this anguish?

Is it possible that these emotions primarily stem from us focusing too much on situations out of our control that really should be pushed to the side and not worried about at all?

Imagine yourself working hard to achieve something very important to you, but it’s causing you to lose sleep, increase your stress levels and isolate yourself from those you care about the most (potentially the people who you may be doing this task for).

Most of the time it wouldn’t be worth putting yourself and those you love through this agony, regardless of what you’re attempting to accomplish.

According to William Irvine, (author of A Guide to the Good Life) setting up expectations and goals that we have complete control over (and partial control over) internally beforehand, versus those that we have no control over, can save ourselves from negative emotions that can arise.

An instance could be a goal that is easily obtainable that has lesser odds of failing or causing disappointment versus the example prior that can lead to suffering during the process, even if you end up achieving it.

F the BS: It’s time to steer our emotions towards the path that leads to embracement

We need to become indifferent to our feelings and emotions, regardless if they are positive or negative.

This isn’t to say that you shouldn’t feel joy or displeasure from certain events in your life, but more so that whatever happens happens and to not take things too seriously.

Shakespeare once said, “There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.”

Simply put, he believes that nothing in this world should be labeled into these two categories. If you can learn to accept this, you will begin to navigate your life towards a more peaceful state where your emotions are in your control (versus being completely situational and based on conditions out of your hands).

In the big picture, it’s a complete waste of our time and efforts to weigh heavily on past or present events that we have no control over.

The impermanence of life is real. We are very fortunate to be able to live.

So take a second to realize that in this moment there’s a very important decision to make. You can either fill your thoughts with hopes and wishes of it being different, or you can learn to embrace it for whatever it is.

If you choose to embrace it, your life will be well lived.

I’ll leave you with this 2,000+ year old story…

One day in late summer, an old farmer was working in his field with his old sick horse. The farmer felt compassion for the horse and desired to lift its burden. So he let his horse loose to go the mountains and live out the rest of its life.

Soon after, neighbors from the nearby village visited, offering their condolences and said, “What a shame.  Now your only horse is gone.  How unfortunate you are!. You must be very sad. How will you live, work the land, and prosper?” The farmer replied: “Who knows? We shall see”.

Two days later the old horse came back now rejuvenated after meandering in the mountainsides while eating the wild grasses. He came back with twelve new younger and healthy horses which followed the old horse into the corral.

Word got out in the village of the old farmer’s good fortune and it wasn’t long before people stopped by to congratulate the farmer on his good luck.  “How fortunate you are!” they exclaimed. You must be very happy!”  Again, the farmer softly said, “Who knows? We shall see.”

At daybreak on the next morning, the farmer’s only son set off to attempt to train the new wild horses, but the farmer’s son was thrown to the ground and broke his leg.  One by one villagers arrived during the day to bemoan the farmer’s latest misfortune.  “Oh, what a tragedy!  Your son won’t be able to help you farm with a broken leg. You’ll have to do all the work yourself, How will you survive? You must be very sad”.  they said.  Calmly going about his usual business the farmer answered, “Who knows? We shall see”


Several days later a war broke out. The Emperor’s men arrived in the village demanding that young men come with them to be conscripted into the Emperor’s army.  As it happened the farmer’s son was deemed unfit because of his broken leg.  “What very good fortune you have!!” the villagers exclaimed as their own young sons were marched away. “You must be very happy.” “Who knows? We shall see!”, replied the old farmer as he headed off to work his field alone.

As time went on the broken leg healed but the son was left with a slight limp. Again the neighbors came to pay their condolences. “Oh what bad luck. Too bad for you”!  But the old farmer simply replied; “Who knows? We shall see.”

As it turned out the other young village boys had died in the war and the old farmer and his son were the only able bodied men capable of working the village lands. The old farmer became wealthy and was very generous to the villagers. They said: “Oh how fortunate we are, you must be very happy”, to which the old farmer replied, “Who knows? We shall see!”

How Thinking about Death can Reawaken your Life

Death is an interesting subject. In the back of our minds we all know that one day we will die, as well as all of our loved ones.

We go through our days subconsciously trying to avoid death, by buckling our seatbelt, driving safely (hopefully while not texting), eating healthier foods, exercising, etc.

Yet most of us prefer to keep the idea of death within the subconscious versus bringing it to the surface of our focus and confronting it directly.

By thinking about death, you can reawaken your life for the better.

Cultivating a keen awareness of death creates a pathway in your mind to a whole new world.  This world is filled with authentic gratitude for each and every moment within the present.

It enables you to bring to light and freely accept the hard truth that you never know when it will be your last time seeing someone you love or doing something you enjoy.

We’ve all heard the saying that you should live everyday like it’s your last, but it’s definitely easier said than done. And the majority of people who say it most likely don’t wholeheartedly practice what they preach.

F the BS: It’s time to call death out so that you can live everyday like it’s your last

You must repeatedly make the effort to bring death to your attention. Use the power of reflection and negative visualization (for a refresher reread the post on negative visualization) to sit with the Grim Reaper himself and allow yourself to become more comfortable with the idea of talking about it on a conscious level.

Through consistent repetition, you begin to create new tracts of thoughts and outlooks on life within the mind, all pertaining to death.

This leads to eventually becoming a subconscious task throughout each day, that ultimately empowers you to extract the absolute most out of life.

So I’ll leave you with this thought…

Fast forward to an older version of yourself who is lying on their deathbed. Try to envision what it would potentially feel like to be in that very moment, contemplating about the life that you lived.

Now come back to the present.

Ask yourself this question: On my deathbed, do I want to be able to look back at my life and smile and be truly happy and appreciative of the decisions that I made, the memories and experiences I lived through as well as the lives that I touched?

If the answer to that question is yes, then in this very moment it’s time to take control and implement these teachings.

The people in your life right now will NOT be here forever. Develop the awareness necessary to live in the present moment and to never take anyone or anything for granted. You do NOT want to have regrets.

Think about death often and without fear and watch as every part of your existence rises to a higher sense of gratitude, purpose and emotion.

“Live in the present and make it so beautiful that it will be worth remembering.” – Ida Scott Taylor

Eliminating the Impact of Insults from your Mind

We all experience it (with some being able to acknowledge it), yet it’s something extremely difficult to control.

A family member, friend or a loved one says or does an action that instantly puts you in a bad mood.

Whether you’re immediately filled with anger or are frustrated and annoyed, the fact of the matter is that it has completely affected your present state of being.

Who’s to blame for this sense of outrage that you feel pumping deep within every vein?

The person to point the finger at is yourself.

Each and every one of us has the ability to control our emotions. It’s entirely up to you to do so.

Think about this for a second.

You’re walking into a friends house and as soon as you enter through the front door, their dog begins to bark at you aggressively.

You smile and say Hi to the dog, maybe even give it a pet or two.

But why? This dog is clearly barking at you for a reason, one being that it doesn’t seem to like you at this very moment. Yet your mood is perfectly sound.

Subconsciously you’ve already made the decision that it’s just a dog and that getting upset or feeling insulted by it’s actions would be silly.

Those accepted and prompt reactions and rationalizations can be harnessed, controlled and applied towards people, as well as any predicament that you may find yourself in.

F THE BS: It’s time to eliminate these emotional triggers from the equation (you can thank the book A Guide to the Good Life for these tips!)

The next time you find yourself in a situation where someone has just made a statement that potentially insults you, pause for a moment before reacting or responding.

Think to yourself…

Is what was just said true? If so, then there’s not much to be upset or insulted about.

Next ask yourself – how informed is the insulter on this specific topic? Could it be that this is simply the way they view and sincerely see things?

If you’re having a difficult time determining the honest answers to the two questions above, ask yourself –  Do I respect and value this person’s opinion? If you do, then you shouldn’t take what was said the wrong way.

The moral of the lesson here is that YOU are the source of any sting or burn that is felt from the insult. If you can take the few seconds to ask yourself the questions above, more likely than not you’ll come to discover that there’s nothing to get offended about.

Even more so, if the persons remarks were insulting and you feel strongly that they aren’t true then why allow this unreliable person to negatively affect your character? If anything, you should feel sorry for them.

There’s nothing stopping you from taking a different approach and rewiring your thoughts and triggers into subconsciously accepting that a person’s insults carry no harm to you, especially those that aren’t true to begin with!

Just think about the non-insulting barking dog 🙂

We only have so much time to live our lives. Take control of your internal intelligence and apply it’s capabilities to these external situations. This way you ensure that the ball is always in your court when it comes to your emotions and how you feel at any given moment, regardless of the circumstances.

“Who then is invincible? The one who cannot be upset by anything outside their reasoned choice.” Epictetus:

Stop Scrolling, Start Living

The common person in this day and age doesn’t think anymore, they scroll.

On average, we spend roughly 3.5 hours per day on our phones. Considering the fact that there’s a large percentage of people who spend significantly more time than that on a daily basis, it’s safe to say that these mobile devices have literally taken over our lives.

Assuming that the majority of time is spent scrolling through social media feeds, our brains are being filled with useless information that typically impacts us in a negative way.

The more time you spend looking at other people’s lives through social media, the more feelings of envy, hatred, jealousy and other shitty emotions of the sort begin to creep into your conscience (even though most of the time those same people you wish you could be more like secretly feel the same feelings that you do, if not worse).

The complete opposite should be the ultimate goal, which is to induce more positive and happy thoughts and energy into your life.

Many use social media as a front to portray a life that they don’t really live, so that they can get likes and shares from people that they don’t really know and feed an ego that is based upon completely false pretenses.

How do you ever expect to find happiness when you’re constantly consciously (and subconsciously) critiquing and criticizing others, while simultaneously trying to be like them?

When you perform these little acts each and every day, they begin to add up to such an amount that you become completely disconnected from the present and totally unhappy and ungrateful for your own life.

F THE BS

It’s time to STOP seeking affirmation from others and from trying to change who you are into an abstract version of what you believe another person thinks you should be.

What you’re doing is assuming that these other people are the end all be all, and that they know the ideal prototype of how someone should look, feel and act in life.

It’s safe to say that social media has really messed up a lot of people, but there’s ways to dig yourself out of the hole.

You must learn to limit your daily dosage of phone/social media usage (I highly recommend using the Screen Time feature on the iPhone to hold yourself accountable) and reconnect with the present moment more (and work on not grabbing your phone, turning on the TV, or going on the computer or any other digital device during these short sessions).

When you work on this and just sit with your thoughts and overcome the feelings of anxiousness, fear, and any other strong and powerful emotions that arise, you can then begin to truly recognize that judging others doesn’t bring any positive benefit to your existence.

That when you slowly stop focusing on others and start looking within, you can build a great sense of connection to reality and the present moment and come to realize that you can be happy just as you are, completely with yourself.

“Happiness comes from within. It is not dependent on external things or on other people. You become vulnerable and can be easily hurt when your feelings of security and happiness depend on the behavior and actions of other people. Never give your power to anyone else.” – Brian Weiss

What Children can teach us about not giving a Fuck

Children are interesting. They’re born and then before you know it, they’re already walking and talking.

Once the talking stage begins, their imagination truly comes out which allows them to create stories and use their facial expressions to show just how much they believe in the fairy tales that they narrate.

If you ask them a personal question knowing that the answer could potentially hurt your feelings, they’ll quickly give you an honest and direct response without batting an eye.

Take my niece for example. When she was around 6 or 7 I asked her to look at my teeth and tell me whether or not they were yellow. Without hesitation she said that they were.

I then asked her which specific ones were yellow, and she proceeded to go one by one and point out which teeth in my mouth were yellow.

How’s that for being completely blunt!

We can learn a lot from children, especially when it comes to how little they give a fuck about (or can even understand at certain ages) the repercussions of potentially sensitive subjects.

F the BS: It’s time to learn to not give a fuck

The next time you catch yourself contemplating on how to approach a delicate situation personally, or you find that you feel like you’re walking on eggshells during a sticky scenario at work, pause for a second and think about the potential outcome if you were to say fuck it and tell whoever you’re speaking to how it really is and should be.

If the worst case scenario isn’t too bad, try to be a complete straight-shooter with zero fucks given and see what happens.

Sometimes to succeed and get by in life you have to stand up, be pushy and aggressive and fight hard for what you truly believe deep down is right. Not only can this result in getting what you want out of the situation, but even more so it can attract and accumulate respect.

People who learn to live life as an ethical asshole (one who approaches situations very pragmatically and sternly to ensure they get their way, even if there’s potential to hurt one’s feelings) typically excel and get further ahead in certain aspects of life because they know what they want and they go after it and take it, saying F it to repercussions that don’t necessarily have significant impact.

To wrap it up…

If you really want something in life, and I mean REALLY want it, sometimes you have to stand up for yourself, confront the BS head on (whether it’s internally or externally) and take what’s rightfully yours.

In some cases, NOT doing so can have a major negative impact and trajectory on your life.

Don’t let that happen to yourself, be a dick if you must!

“Maturity is what happens when one learns to only give a fuck about what’s truly fuckworthy.” – Mark Manson

Winning the Lottery of Life: Do you realize just how lucky you are to be alive?

Did you know that the odds of you being born as yourself are more than 1 in 400 trillion?

Without breaking down the numbers, it’s apparent that those odds are straight up impossible.

Yet, you exist.

It’s easy to go through life without taking this into consideration, but think about these facts for a second.

Many many decades ago your great grandparents as well as their great grandparents and so on, magically came together to produce their children. Eventually down the line, this resulted in two people from different family trees, who out of all the other people in the world that could meet each other, came together to become your parents and produce you.

How crazy and bizarre is that? Had one minor thought, action, twist or accident happened that resulted in a different turn of direction, you wouldn’t be who you are today.

While we all go through ups and downs throughout our lives, at the very core of our existence it’s vital for us to understand that we have truly won the lottery of life.

Because we have done so, it’s essential to remember that when the going gets tough…when life is seemingly not going our way…when the odds are stacked against us and it feels as though there’s no possible resolution…that we have the most precious gift called life.

Also, for however the amount of comfort this may bring, or for a more clearer sense of reality on your situation, don’t forget that whatever it is that you may be going through, there’s always someone who is 10 times more worse off.

We don’t get to decide our circumstances early on, but it’s in our power to take massive action to change them for the better as we grow up.

It’s easier said than done, but if you can learn to instill in your mind that you are truly one of a kind, and that you are absolutely a miracle in every sense of the word, you can get through any and every obstacle that life throws at you with strength, confidence and dignity.

“Make sure you live your life like you won the biggest lottery ever, because you already did!” – ME

Obtaining Eternal Inner Peace through the Magic of Meditation

We’ve discussed how to slow down in today’s busy world through recognizing your thinking patterns and implementing basic breathing exercises at times when you’re overwhelmed.

In addition, we’ve dug into the impact of reflecting and how you can learn to sit back inside of your mind and dissociate from “being” your thoughts. How you can teach yourself to simply watch and observe every thought that pops up as they come and go, without judgement. And how through this awareness, you can then extract subconscious thoughts from within and connect important and sometimes life discovering dots together.

Today I wanted to focus attention on the practice of meditation, which is another unbelievable tool that can be applied to obtain a deep sense of inner peace, awareness and gratitude. It offers a wide array of health benefits and can truly help slow you down in every sense of the meaning, especially when you feel like you’re going 100 miles an hour on all cylinders.

Through meditation you can achieve a state of mindfulness where you’re fully aware and immersed within the present moment. Through diligent practice, during this unique and incredible moment in time (it could last for only a split second) your thoughts magically (and temporarily, of course) pause.

You become so focused on the act of meditating that your thought machine quietly shuts down and takes a much needed break.

Now let me ask you a few questions: 

When’s the last time you weren’t in a rush?

When’s the last time you intentionally went an hour without picking up your phone during the day?

The hidden human superpower in this day and age is being AWARE.

Being aware of your thoughts and learning how to control them.

Being aware that you feel rushed and in a hurry to speed up, and gaining the ability to instantly slow down at a moments notice.

Being aware that you’ve spent over 5 unproductive hours on your phone in one day, while picking it up over 300 times throughout that span of time, and figuring out a way to take a step back and focus on the present.

This sense of life altering awareness can be achieved through meditation.

F the BS: It’s time to learn to meditate so that you can harness the power of awareness  

Obvious Disclaimer: I’m not a meditation expert. My insights below are from my research, findings and experiences through meditating. There’s no one size fits all approach here. Do what makes you feel most comfortable and focused. 

When meditating, you want to make sure you perform the practice in a very relaxing and calm environment. Some say to do it in a place where you only use this specific area for the sole purpose of meditation. (I enjoy meditating in the morning, but you can realistically do it whenever you have some down time to relax and focus).

Ideally, you want to either

-sit in a comfortable chair ensuring you have proper posture
-sit on the floor with your legs crossed with proper posture
-lay completely down with your arms and shoulders relaxed (I prefer this option, especially for those with back pain).

In terms of the style of meditation, below are three different types that I’ve used in the past and still use today (apparently there’s over 20 different types to choose from!).

Guided Meditation

These days there’s a ton of apps that offer guided meditation. This is when a person is speaking to you and takes you through the journey, hence guided.

If you’re brand new to meditating, this is probably going to be your best bet initially as someone’s voice will be with you every step of the way to bring you into a relaxed state so that you can focus on the practice.

Focused Attention Meditation

This is simply the act of focusing on something specific throughout your practice, such as your breath. Fully observing your body and what it does every time you inhale and exhale. It’s good to choose a word to say each time you inhale as well as exhale to help you prolong your focus.

Passage Meditation

I learned this incredible practice from Eknath Easwaran, an amazing indian spiritual teacher. He wrote books that I highly recommend reading such as Passage Meditation, Take Your Time and the Mantram Handbook.

Passage meditation is a unique form where you initially memorize an inspirational passage (ideally one written from some of the world’s great spiritual traditions). You then slowly read the passage word for word over and over again, without thinking into the meaning of the words.

This form of meditation is by far my favorite, but it’s also the most difficult of the three. By focusing on a passage filled with positivity, you essentially become what you meditate on.

To wrap it up…

Meditation is NOT easy. It will take you a LONG time to be able to slow down your thoughts and fully focus on the present moment throughout your practice.

The GOOD thing is that if you stick with it, it will offer you a lifetime of peace, happiness and gratitude.

Just remember: Repeatedly returning is the key. If you find yourself getting distracted, recognize it, don’t judge it and simply return to the practice.

“A calm mind releases the most precious capacity a human being can have: the capacity to turn anger into compassion, fear into fearlessness, and hatred into love.” – Eknath Easwaran

Learning to Solve Problems through the Cultivation of Patience

Life is like a board game. Each time you roll the dice and advance forward you land on a new set of problems. In order to proceed to the next step (to a new batch of issues and concerns), you must first learn how to properly deal with what’s thrown at you so that you can progress in the most effective manner to ultimately excel at this game we call life.

It’s conclusive that humans want happiness, love and fulfillment (at least most of the time). Think of these as qualities that you can achieve for a lifetime, once you learn how to win at the board game of life.

The question is, how can you really reap the benefits of these attributes and harness them for as long as you’re on this planet? Or better yet, how can you learn to effectively solve problems in order to eternally access them?

Enter: Patience.

We always hear the saying “Patience is a virtue”, but do you ever stop to really soak in the meaning of the statement?

By definition, patience is “the capacity to accept or tolerate delay, trouble, or suffering without getting angry or upset.”

Through various books, I’ve discovered (which might come as totally obvious to some) that the key to a well-rounded life boils down to your level of patience.

If your patience tank is always on low, you’re most likely a person who gets upset and offended easily, jumping back and forth from positive emotion to negative emotion solely based on all the external factors that come into your existence. Simply put, you’re currently sitting in last place in the board game metaphor.

On the other hand, if you’ve got a full tank of patience you’re typically someone who is calm and composed, ready to take on anything that’s thrown at you with fortitude. In other words, you’re leading the way in the game of life.

Regardless of how much money you possess, your status personally amongst friends or professionally amongst colleagues, even how attractive you may be, if you lack patience you lack the true meaning and sense of what life is supposed to be about.

F the BS: It’s time to learn how to solve your problems by becoming more patient

Now that we know (or have known) that life is always going to throw obstacles at us, everyone can learn to add a few more drops of patience into their daily dose of life. So let’s drill down a few different ways to rewire our minds into gaining more of this one of a kind virtue.

-Slow down your thinking – This is one we’ve discussed in the past. If you can learn to live life on an even keel (through meditation, breathing, reflecting, etc) you’ll be able to control whatever comes at you with confidence and determination, preventing it from affecting your mental state of mind.

-Realize the impermanence of life itself – Life is short. Shit can pop off at any minute. Think about how unimportant whatever it is you’re about to let negatively affect you and realize how insignificant it is in the grand scheme of things.

-Avoid the issue entirely – Most problems experienced are recurring, if not on a daily basis, then enough times throughout life that one can learn to pinpoint them as they are about to occur or even better, right before they present themselves. Really think about this one, and the next time a dilemma is slowly creeping into your existence, take notice of it, stay calm, prevent your emotions from escalating (maybe even take a few deep breaths) and shoot it down with dignity.

-Be compassionate – If your potential problem involves someone else, try to put their feelings and point of view first. Is it really their fault? Even if it is, are they worth disturbing your immediate quality of life?

-Appreciate your dislikes – Most of the time problems and dislikes are interchangeable, but what if you took a new approach to your dislikes and looked at them in a positive light? Can you give them attention and focus and learn to appreciate them and maybe even be grateful for them as they are?

-Use a mantra(m) – Each time emotions are heightened, repeat a phrase or word inside of your head to distract you from the situation at hand until you have a clear mind to approach the problem in a calmer state.

To wrap things up…

It’s pretty simple. If you can acquire more of the skill called patience you can live a better quality of life.

Regardless if you’re completely blindsided by a problem or can prepare and anticipate one coming, the objective is to learn to not allow yourself to blow them out of proportion. Don’t let your emotions and moods be dictated by the external factors that make up your problems. 

The next time you’re presented with one of life’s challenges, try to be a little more patient and see what happens. Who knows, maybe you’ll end up winning at the game of life 🙂

“A man who is a master of patience is a master of everything else.” – George Savile