Blaze your own Trail: Start taking Action and you’ll get what you Deserve

The famous motivational speaker and author Jim Rohn once said,

“Life doesn’t respond to what we need, life responds to what we deserve…it doesn’t say if you need a harvest you get one, it says, if you plant in the spring then you’ll get harvest in the fall…reaping and harvesting belong to planters, not to those in need”

What’s stopping you from starting to take action today, to begin planting seeds, so that you ultimately end up getting what you deserve in life?

Around the time I had graduated college back in 2012, I came across a Facebook ad for a fantasy sports company (this was when I was still working on building out my own fantasy sports application).

I decided to click the ad and fill out the survey to see what insights it could give me.

Without much thought, yet due to that simple action, I had planted one of the most important seeds of my life.

Someone reached back out and told me that the company was tied to and ran by a much larger and well known company.

Long story short, they ended up hiring me to help them with their beta version/launch (although I was working on my own application at the time, I was fresh out of college and needed income! I’m pretty sure I also disclosed that I was working on being somewhat of a competitor of theirs).

I was put in touch with the product manager who was my main point of contact, and during those few months of working together he encouraged me to start reading books.

This was the first time I picked up a book to read for pleasure.

He recommended me to start with Phil Jackson’s newest book Eleven Rings and I absolutely loved it!

Circling back to the fantasy sports ad that at the time seemed meaningless, that action enabled me to plant a seed that has blossomed into a beautiful tree.

Since then, I’ve been an insatiable reader. The knowledge and wisdom gained from reading books has truly helped me grow in every aspect of my life for the better.

It’s allowed many of my unconscious dreams come to fruition…all from that Facebook ad.

(Months later, I would go on and perform another small action that would put me at the start of a path towards everything that I would end up accomplishing in my professional/business life to date).

There’s a verse in the bible that says,

“Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you.”

The point I’m trying to make here (if you haven’t gotten it yet!) is that if you keep knocking, you WILL find open doors.

Even in the smallest actions that may seem irrelevant and unimportant at the time, opportunity always lays. 

It’s time to say F the BS and start blazing your own trail!

“Those who will not read are no better off than those who cannot read.” – Jim Rohn

How Your Self Image is Destroying Your Potential in Life

When most people think about their greatest ambitions in life, they typically pair it with a laundry list of excuses on why they cannot achieve it right this moment.

Whether it be due to not having enough money, or time, or because everybody and everything is simply unfair to them, all of these excuses have compiled and compounded over your life as a result of the experiences that you’ve encountered.

Yet, you know very well of others out there who are wildly successful, who have attained tremendous heights and have made incredible impacts on the lives of millions of others. You tell yourself, they’re lucky, they had money to start, or any and every other excuse that you can think of to make yourself feel better.

But is this the truth?

If you had the money or the time, would you really be able to succeed at the same level as these others?  

Per the book Psycho Cybernetics, all of your behaviors are consistent with the self image that you’ve subconsciously given yourself.

In other words, you are limited in life to the self image that’s been created over time through your life experiences.

If you believe this planet hates you, then that’s the reality you live in, and your actions and emotions reflect that world. Deep within without even controlling it, you constantly seek to validate and reinforce this belief, ultimately leading to a low self image value.

What you need to know is that this low self image is DESTROYING your potential in life.

It’s the main reason and driving force behind why you haven’t taken the leap into the amazing unknown that’s filled with infinite possibilities and opportunities that can lead to you living a life filled with meaning and purpose.

It’s literally impossible for you to go after and achieve your goals without first increasing your self image.

It’s time to say F the BS!

Now that you know…

  • that your self image value is in the shitter (sorry, but it’s the truth)
  • that if you want to make a serious move in life for the better you must increase its value

you can begin focusing your awareness towards what will actually move the needle, which is eliminating your current “false” beliefs.

Think about your past experiences.

What stands out the most when you go as far back as you can remember.

Whether it be a bully during your school days that made you feel inferior to speak up to others, or a teacher or parent that drilled into your head that you will never be able to achieve a certain goal leading to you shooting for something less desirable, these past stories have deeply affected your mindset (and honestly, it’s not your fault so don’t be hard on yourself).  

What you need to understand is that these are nothing more than stories, mental barriers that have been blocking you from making positive improvements and changes in your life.

You can break down these walls and change your wiring of beliefs.

You can tell yourself right in this very moment that these past experiences are no longer going to affect your behaviors and decisions that you make moving forward, that they are false beliefs that have manifested into a reality that you do not want to live in anymore.

It is completely in your power to be like the many others who are living and breathing with a self image value that is so high, that they are able to inspire the world and obtain their aspirations regardless of any past circumstances.

The decision is in your hands, in this moment, right now.

“Never measure your self-worth by what other people think you should have become.” -Anonymous

It’s Time to Stop Making Excuses and Start Excelling

What’s stopping you right now from going after your lifelong passion?

If your circumstances were just right, would you be able to pursue your destiny?

If you answered yes to the second question, than you’re fooling yourself.

The fact of the matter is, your current conditions do not shape or determine your future.

The key element that enables you to stop making excuses and to start excelling are your decisions.

I recently finished reading Tony Robbins’ Awaken the Giant Within, which is an absolutely incredible and life changing book.

Tony talks about the force behind every decision that we make deriving from either avoiding pain or gaining pleasure.

So let’s be brutally honest for a moment.

The reason you don’t do the truly important things in your life (like living it up to its fullest and ensuring you succeed at achieving your dreams) is because you subconsciously convince yourself that by taking any type of action towards these goals (where you may have to confront your fears) you’d be putting yourself in more pain than just putting it off for another time, if ever at all.

Tony states that “we all do more to avoid pain than we do to gain pleasure”.

The issue with this concept is that the perceived “pain” that we do link to going after our greatest ambitions are a big fat lie.

It’s fake, make believe, not fucking real or true.

Instead of just saying fuck it like you may have when you were a child without thinking about any consequences, we allow our minds to take control and persuade us into thinking a million different negative reasons why we shouldn’t take the leap.

We tell ourselves that it’ll be too hard, or that we will fail, look stupid and lose the confidence that we do have.

But all of these excuses can cease to exist.

It’s possible to change these linking patterns that we we’ve unknowingly built up over our lives.

It’s time to say F the BS.

Below is an exercise that I learned from Awaken the Giant Within that you can perform on yourself. In the example below, I’ve used my own situation to help guide you.

Do this and you’ll discover the power of your decisions and how you can learn to link more pain to NOT pursuing your goals and more pleasure to going after them!

What is your ultimate passion in life?

Writing and publishing a book which can help make a meaningful impact for others and allow me to contribute more to society.

What actions have you been putting off from achieving this goal?

I’ve gotten to the point where I need to begin editing the book, and since I’m not an editor I’ve been delaying the process of getting started.

In addition, I know that I can improve the context within a few chapters, but now my mind has started thinking about the idea of the book not being as good as other books that I’ve read. It’s making me second guess the entire idea of writing.  

What pain have you linked to taking this action?

I’m linking the possibility of the book not being written as well as I know that it can be. 

Write down the pleasure you’ve had in the past by indulging in this negative pattern.

I’m able to push it to the side and not think about it all the time, which leads to less stress and worry.

I’m able to concentrate on other important parts of my life, which leads to improvement in other facets.

I’m able to convince myself that when I’m ready I’ll get to it, which leads to me feeling content.

Write down what it will cost you if you don’t change now.

If I don’t change now…

I may lose my flow and never finish writing or publishing the book.

I may fail at achieving my ultimate passion.

Hows does that make you feel?

It makes me feel like my roadblocks aren’t as extreme in the big picture, that not attaining my goal would feel much worse, and that I should focus on completing the essential tasks that I need to in order to go after my passion.

Write down all the pleasure you’ll receive by taking each of these actions right now. Envision all the positive impacts both in the present and in the long term.

By editing my book and improving the certain chapters that need to be bolstered, I’ll be able to take one step closer to successfully publishing my book. It’ll give me back the momentum that I felt when I was writing the book originally.

In doing so, it will allow me to then promote the book and help make a positive impact on all of the others that read it.

Even more so, by spreading the word about my book via podcasts, videos, content, social media, etc, I will be able to not only learn the process of marketing a book, but also educate people on different aspects of my central messages (without them necessarily reading the book) that will lead to making an impact in their lives.

Considering the book will be available to purchase for years to come, there’s no telling the number of lives it can impact. Also, it can give me the confidence I need to go after writing a second or even third book. This could lead to building new relationships, going further out of my comfort zone, trying out new things (like public speaking and becoming a coach/offering lessons), growing as a person, contributing more and ultimately gaining way more pleasure in my life.

“It is in your moments of decision that your destiny is shaped.” —Tony Robbins”

When’s the last time you weren’t in a rush?

When’s the last time you asked yourself that question?

Everything in our lives is sped up to the max. We convince ourselves that we have so much to do with so little time, but is it really the truth?

More than half the stuff we do on a daily basis could most likely be eliminated without any immediate negative impact on our lives, yet we insist on doing them anyway (despite the consequences).

It’s time to try to slow the fuck down. It’s time to ask yourself important questions like “When’s the last time I wasn’t in a rush?” and figure out ways to actually do it versus getting side tracked by our cell phones.

If we just take a moment to sit, away from all of the digital media, we can begin to relax, ease up and reflect.

Take one minute out of your day today to just recognize your breathing. Feel the natural patterns of your inhalation and exhalation. Feel how it feels to focus in on the breathe.

By doing this small action, you can distract your mind for just a brief moment and attain some equanimity in your busy life.

From there, you can begin to see things from a clearer lens. You can approach the rest of your day with a more composed state of mind.

You can choose to slow things down, feel less rushed and find a sense of happiness and gratitude during this precise blip in time.

“Slow down and enjoy life. It’s not only the scenery you miss by going too fast – you also miss the sense of where you are going and why.” – Eddie Cantor

Being in a hurry does not slow down time.” – Mokokoma Mokhonoana

The Impact that Personal Growth and Self Discovery has on our Loved Ones

If you’re reading this you more likely than not are seeking methods to improve your quality of life, which is terrific and something you should be very proud of.

Seriously.

Unfortunately, most fuck everything up by holding the belief that if they can generate a certain amount of financial income, that only then can they accelerate their happiness levels as well as those closest to them.

It’s not your fault. It’s our environment. It’s what we were conditioned to think and believe since we were youngins.

With this ingrained and limiting view, you allow your behaviors and thoughts to seek validation for it and begin to take action towards it.

The problem with this concept is the belief that something external (money) can bring us what we really seek (gratitude, fulfillment, freedom and happiness).

A sense of gratitude, fulfillment, freedom and happiness are internal feelings. They’re developed from within you, NOT from you getting a new job or a bonus or even winning the lottery and adding an extra few zeros to your bank account.

For real, winning the lottery does NOT make you happier.

Even if you were to increase the amount of money you make, the elusive sensations of fulfillment and happiness are not going to just magically hop onto your shoulders and ride the remaining wave of life with you.

It can takes years, decades, even LIFETIMES of hard work and practice to acquire these coveted qualities consistently over the course of one’s life.

The statement above may hurt and offend, but it’s a hard truth. One that you must learn to accept.

What’s incredible about the process of personal growth and self-discovery (something that I’ve been actively working on for some time now) is just how much of a positive impact your existence and thirst for knowledge and execution of that knowledge can have on others.

Those you love in particular.

While many of us always seek to take care of our family and friends in some way shape or form, we primarily and subconsciously seek to improve ourselves.

Our health, productivity levels, how much we have in our wallet/bank account, etc.

We read self-help books on habits that we need to create as well as those we must eliminate.

We listen to podcasts that inspire and motivate us to want to take action and take the steps towards financial freedom.

We watch documentaries of those who have faced tremendous adversity and overcame it with a incredible sense of ambition and determination to succeed.

But regardless if we are able to achieve success financially, simply performing these acts day in and day out, working on improving ourselves and our well-being physically, mentally, spiritually and emotionally, we can discover that success isn’t what brings happiness, but that in fact happiness is what brings success.

When you take action to educate yourself (on how to get motivated, become happier, become more grateful, to start your own business, to become more positive, to question your beliefs, your thinking patterns, etc), you begin to learn new and exciting concepts and ideas, forcing your brain to literally start growing new neurological pathways.

This level of tenacity and insatiable hunger to want to achieve and become a more improved and better YOU paradoxically allows you to make an impact on your loved ones in a way that MONEY NEVER CAN.

Your elevated sense of awareness, confidence and positivity that you undoubtedly begin to possess is massively contagious.

Those you surround yourself with can immediately feel and sense the new and heightened version of you. And if they truly love you, they’ll not only be happy and grateful for you, but also take it and implement it into their life.

So keep on going.

Take control of your life, constantly better yourself for the greater good and watch as your own self improvement casts a beacon, luring in those around you to reach new heights.

“I know I’m fortunate to live an extraordinary life, and that most people would assume my business success, and the wealth that comes with it, have brought me happiness. But they haven’t; in fact it’s the reverse. I am successful, wealthy and connected because I am happy.” – Richard Branson

How to Ensure Success by Applying the Kaizen Principle

When broken down the word Kaizen is composed of “kai” which means change, and “zen” which means good. Good change, change good!

It’s described as a process of continuous improvement in small steps that compound over time.

The principle/strategy can be implemented into every facet of our life and can help us maximize our chances of achieving our greatest ambitions.

So how does one ensure success by applying the kaizen principle, you might ask?

Let’s start off with a little bit of a science lesson.

After reading One Small Step Can Change Your Life: The Kaizen Way written by Robert Maurer (he has a PhD, so he must be smart), I learned about the three different parts of the brain (forebrain, midbrain and the hindbrain). We are going to focus on the first two parts.

So the forebrain is where the Cortex lives. This is the part of the brain that makes us human, enabling us to think, have rational thoughts and creative impulses.

It’s home to where we can make changes in our lives.

The midbrain is where the amygdala is located, which creates our fight or flight responses. When the amygdala is in action other parts of the brain shut down (like the cortex) so that we can focus full efforts on fighting or flighting (like running away from a bear, or stupidly trying to attack it).

Essentially, when we induce fear we limit our access to the cortex. We aren’t able to go after what we want.

What I’m trying to get at is that the reason kaizen is so powerful and effective is due to the way it works to bypass the amygdala/fear (which blocks creativity) allowing us to use the cortex to its full potential.

Simply put, if you focus on small and easily attainable goals you can circumnavigate the triggers of the amygdala and tap into the impetus of the cortex.

Think about a time when you got really excited about an idea or a new goal for yourself. You started putting together a bunch of plans and actions to begin executing them, and then within a few days or maybe a week later you gave up.

Why did this happen? You were so excited about this idea/goal just a week ago! You signed up to the local gym, went and bought all this new apparel and supplements and were destined to lose 30 pounds.

The fact of the matter is, you blew your load too quick.

You set yourself up for failure not by creating too lofty of a goal, but by the steps and actions you convinced yourself you had to take to achieve it. You began telling yourself, this is harder than I thought. How am I going to keep coming to the gym every day and doing all these exercises, how am I going to keep eating healthy and not go for the junk food, etc.

All of this resulted in a sense of feeling overwhelmed and fearful, ultimately allowing your amygdala to do its thing and that was that.

The name of the game in life is to NOT blow your load too fast.

Slow and steady wins the race.

F the BS: Use the Kaizen Principle Right Now to Achieve Your Goals

Everything we do is based upon gaining more pleasure and moving away from any pain.

When we create a goal, it’s PAINFUL to think about all of the things we must do to achieve it. It’s much more PLEASUREable to just push it to the side and continue living our lives, even if that means staying fat, overweight and unhealthy.

It’s when we finally decide that it’s more painful to stay this way that we begin making changes.

But how can we ever come to this realization without letting our amygdala ruin the show?

With that in mind, you must begin to ask yourself small questions (your brain loves questions, as it allows you to investigate into the inquiry and seek answers).

Ask yourself, “What small benefit can I receive from doing just 30 seconds of (air squats, push ups, crunches, etc) per day”?

By asking questions (in a gentle manner) and taking micro steps, it allows for inspiration and creativity to kick in and begins to motivate you to want more. Plus, small questions aren’t scary, enabling you to keep the amygdala fast asleep.

Before you know it, you’ll be doing 1 minute worth of exercises per day and gradually work your way up. Just remember that it’s important to keep the objectives small, as if you begin to feel like you dread doing it then you know that it’s too excessive and you must limit yourself to where it feels effortless.

Effortless is the key here!

If you can begin to turn the wheel of momentum by focusing on small and effortless goals, you will subconsciously convince yourself that these tasks aren’t painful and are in fact filling you with a sense of pleasure. Once you get to this point, there is absolutely nothing that can prevent you from accomplishing your aspirations.

Small actions are at the heart of kaizen. By taking steps so tiny that they seem trivial or even laughable, you’ll sail calmly past obstacles that have defeated you before. Slowly – but painlessly! – you’ll cultivate an appetite for continued success and lay down a permanent new route to change.” – Robert Maurer

Kicking Procrastination to the Curb

Why does one procrastinate?

After contemplating on this topic for quite some time, I’ve come to realize that the main reason we defer to go after meaningful goals (regardless of how big or small) is due to a deep rooted sense of fear within.

Fear of failure. Fear of embarrassment. Fear of what others will think.

We’ve previously discussed

-why failing is good as well as how to rewire our brain and thoughts about fear.
-that most of the time the worst possible outcome for any situation is typically nowhere near as extreme as you subconsciously make it out to be.
-to stop caring so much about other people’s opinions about your decisions as well as their overall thoughts concerning you.

However, fear still lurks inside of the mind each time courage is built up and potential action is deliberated.

So what does it take to not just retain the information you’ve been provided with, but actually apply and implement it to truly kick any form of procrastination or excuses to the curb for good?

By slowly taking it one step at a time, bit by bit, you can begin to chip away at the big scary monster that you’ve built up inside of your head known as fear.

F the BS: Kick this shit to the curb already!

1 – What’s your main goal? 

Write it down on a piece of paper or type it out on your computer.

2 – What’s a realistic deadline of achieving this goal? (don’t be lenient here, but also try to remain rational)

This is important, as without a deadline you’ll just revert back to your old ways.

Make this large and bolded. Maybe in a different color.

3 – Chop up your goal into small steps

Take the time to write and break down your goal into tiny parts. It doesn’t matter if you only know the first few ideas, as this will help put you on the proper path to discovering future steps.

This also helps prevent you from getting overwhelmed.

4 – Take the time to mentally visualize attaining your goal

Even if it’s just for a minute each day, take a moment to visually see yourself achieving your aspirations. Try to literally feel the success that would come with turning your idea into a reality. Think about positive emotions your loved ones would permeate when celebrating this remarkable accomplishment with you.

5 – Hold yourself accountable

Make deadlines within your overall deadline and hold yourself to them. If this is too difficult, appoint a family or friend to check up on you to ensure you remain on track. Give them permission to be stern and remind yourself that they are doing it out of love if you ever start to feel negative emotions towards them.

6 – Be happy with the small wins

Don’t be too hard on yourself. Even if your goal is still far from being obtained, enjoy the small victories on your path to success. These quick wins are what helps to build momentum and the positive energy necessary to continue powering through any roadblocks that step in your way.

By putting these few steps into motion, you’re mapping out a plan on paper and visually within your mind. This allows you to visibly see the course that you must take to fulfill your dreams.

At this point, if you want it enough, you will take the action needed to go after and get them!

“Only put off until tomorrow what you are willing to die having left undone” – Pablo Picasso

Learning to Master Your Emotions While Embracing Any Situation

We like to believe that we have more control of our lives and emotions than we really do.

When something doesn’t go as planned, most of us get angry or agitated.

But could it be that we set ourselves up for this anguish?

Is it possible that these emotions primarily stem from us focusing too much on situations out of our control that really should be pushed to the side and not worried about at all?

Imagine yourself working hard to achieve something very important to you, but it’s causing you to lose sleep, increase your stress levels and isolate yourself from those you care about the most (potentially the people who you may be doing this task for).

Most of the time it wouldn’t be worth putting yourself and those you love through this agony, regardless of what you’re attempting to accomplish.

According to William Irvine, (author of A Guide to the Good Life) setting up expectations and goals that we have complete control over (and partial control over) internally beforehand, versus those that we have no control over, can save ourselves from negative emotions that can arise.

An instance could be a goal that is easily obtainable that has lesser odds of failing or causing disappointment versus the example prior that can lead to suffering during the process, even if you end up achieving it.

F the BS: It’s time to steer our emotions towards the path that leads to embracement

We need to become indifferent to our feelings and emotions, regardless if they are positive or negative.

This isn’t to say that you shouldn’t feel joy or displeasure from certain events in your life, but more so that whatever happens happens and to not take things too seriously.

Shakespeare once said, “There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.”

Simply put, he believes that nothing in this world should be labeled into these two categories. If you can learn to accept this, you will begin to navigate your life towards a more peaceful state where your emotions are in your control (versus being completely situational and based on conditions out of your hands).

In the big picture, it’s a complete waste of our time and efforts to weigh heavily on past or present events that we have no control over.

The impermanence of life is real. We are very fortunate to be able to live.

So take a second to realize that in this moment there’s a very important decision to make. You can either fill your thoughts with hopes and wishes of it being different, or you can learn to embrace it for whatever it is.

If you choose to embrace it, your life will be well lived.

I’ll leave you with this 2,000+ year old story…

One day in late summer, an old farmer was working in his field with his old sick horse. The farmer felt compassion for the horse and desired to lift its burden. So he let his horse loose to go the mountains and live out the rest of its life.

Soon after, neighbors from the nearby village visited, offering their condolences and said, “What a shame.  Now your only horse is gone.  How unfortunate you are!. You must be very sad. How will you live, work the land, and prosper?” The farmer replied: “Who knows? We shall see”.

Two days later the old horse came back now rejuvenated after meandering in the mountainsides while eating the wild grasses. He came back with twelve new younger and healthy horses which followed the old horse into the corral.

Word got out in the village of the old farmer’s good fortune and it wasn’t long before people stopped by to congratulate the farmer on his good luck.  “How fortunate you are!” they exclaimed. You must be very happy!”  Again, the farmer softly said, “Who knows? We shall see.”

At daybreak on the next morning, the farmer’s only son set off to attempt to train the new wild horses, but the farmer’s son was thrown to the ground and broke his leg.  One by one villagers arrived during the day to bemoan the farmer’s latest misfortune.  “Oh, what a tragedy!  Your son won’t be able to help you farm with a broken leg. You’ll have to do all the work yourself, How will you survive? You must be very sad”.  they said.  Calmly going about his usual business the farmer answered, “Who knows? We shall see”


Several days later a war broke out. The Emperor’s men arrived in the village demanding that young men come with them to be conscripted into the Emperor’s army.  As it happened the farmer’s son was deemed unfit because of his broken leg.  “What very good fortune you have!!” the villagers exclaimed as their own young sons were marched away. “You must be very happy.” “Who knows? We shall see!”, replied the old farmer as he headed off to work his field alone.

As time went on the broken leg healed but the son was left with a slight limp. Again the neighbors came to pay their condolences. “Oh what bad luck. Too bad for you”!  But the old farmer simply replied; “Who knows? We shall see.”

As it turned out the other young village boys had died in the war and the old farmer and his son were the only able bodied men capable of working the village lands. The old farmer became wealthy and was very generous to the villagers. They said: “Oh how fortunate we are, you must be very happy”, to which the old farmer replied, “Who knows? We shall see!”

How Thinking about Death can Reawaken your Life

Death is an interesting subject. In the back of our minds we all know that one day we will die, as well as all of our loved ones.

We go through our days subconsciously trying to avoid death, by buckling our seatbelt, driving safely (hopefully while not texting), eating healthier foods, exercising, etc.

Yet most of us prefer to keep the idea of death within the subconscious versus bringing it to the surface of our focus and confronting it directly.

By thinking about death, you can reawaken your life for the better.

Cultivating a keen awareness of death creates a pathway in your mind to a whole new world.  This world is filled with authentic gratitude for each and every moment within the present.

It enables you to bring to light and freely accept the hard truth that you never know when it will be your last time seeing someone you love or doing something you enjoy.

We’ve all heard the saying that you should live everyday like it’s your last, but it’s definitely easier said than done. And the majority of people who say it most likely don’t wholeheartedly practice what they preach.

F the BS: It’s time to call death out so that you can live everyday like it’s your last

You must repeatedly make the effort to bring death to your attention. Use the power of reflection and negative visualization (for a refresher reread the post on negative visualization) to sit with the Grim Reaper himself and allow yourself to become more comfortable with the idea of talking about it on a conscious level.

Through consistent repetition, you begin to create new tracts of thoughts and outlooks on life within the mind, all pertaining to death.

This leads to eventually becoming a subconscious task throughout each day, that ultimately empowers you to extract the absolute most out of life.

So I’ll leave you with this thought…

Fast forward to an older version of yourself who is lying on their deathbed. Try to envision what it would potentially feel like to be in that very moment, contemplating about the life that you lived.

Now come back to the present.

Ask yourself this question: On my deathbed, do I want to be able to look back at my life and smile and be truly happy and appreciative of the decisions that I made, the memories and experiences I lived through as well as the lives that I touched?

If the answer to that question is yes, then in this very moment it’s time to take control and implement these teachings.

The people in your life right now will NOT be here forever. Develop the awareness necessary to live in the present moment and to never take anyone or anything for granted. You do NOT want to have regrets.

Think about death often and without fear and watch as every part of your existence rises to a higher sense of gratitude, purpose and emotion.

“Live in the present and make it so beautiful that it will be worth remembering.” – Ida Scott Taylor

Building the Confidence to take on any Obstacle

Confidence.

Some people are naturally born with it, while others go through years or decades (sometimes even a lifetime) of internal battles to overcome and gain the courage needed to pursue a dream.

Before you can become persistent and learn to be able to withstand the volatility of obstacles, as well as emotions, that are most certainly sprinkled throughout the path to achieving your goal, you must first build and acquire the confidence necessary to get started.

How does one grow in confidence? 

It’s wise to start by focusing on what you know you’re already good at and excel in. The small wins that can slowly compound and gain steam from performing tasks that you already have confidence in is essential.

From here, it’s crucial to request or organically receive constructive criticism.

This feedback needs to be taken without the presence of emotions or judgement. At first it may be difficult, but you must remember what we’ve learned previously in regards to anger and insults. If the person is someone you trust and respect, or you see that they are simply providing their opinion from their own point of view, you should accept it for what it is.

Do NOT become too hard on yourself at this time.

On the other hand, implementing the worthwhile aspects of outside input will help in continuing to add up your small victories to the point that you feel bold enough to take the next steps.

At this stage, you should be in a happy environment where you’re working on and vastly improving already positive attributes.

It is extremely important that you use the power of your mind and awareness to not allow negative external factors from derailing your self-esteem (confidence and self-esteem are not the same thing).

You’ve decided on your own to take control and go after your aspirations. The amount of self-esteem and self-worth required to take these steps are immense, and you are filled with it.

Do NOT succumb to pondering or, even worse, believing in what others might be thinking and feeling about you and what you’re doing.

I cannot express enough how imperative it is to not allow these people (family and friends in particular, most of the time) to fill your head with negativity. This will certainly lower your self-esteem levels and prevent you from continuing on your course.

You must guard and defend (as soldiers would for their country) yourself from the pessimism that will absolutely approach and knock on the front door of your mind.

Just remember that you are the sum of the five people you are closest with. If one or two of your confidants isn’t positively impacting your life in a way that you’re truly benefiting from, then it’s time to cut them out of the picture.

People like this typically feed off of others failures, and are deep down envious and jealous of those around them, especially those that they feel inferior to.

Guard against negativity at all costs.

Once you can master these barriers, you’ve finally built the confidence to take anything head on.

You’re mentally prepared to go after your lifelong passions with enough tenacity, persistence and enthusiasm that NOTHING can get in your way and stop you.

A short story to wrap things up….

A tired bird landed on a branch. The bird rested, enjoying the view from the branch and the protection it offered from dangerous animals. Just as the bird became used to the branch and
the support and safety it offered, a strong wind started blowing, and the tree swayed with such intensity that it seemed the branch would snap in half.

But the bird was not worried for it knew two important truths. The first truth – even without the branch it was able to fly, and thus remain safe through the power of its own two wings. The second truth – it also knew that there are many other branches upon which it can temporarily rest.