Attaining Peace From Mind Through Unlearning

Imagine a beautiful and serene island that you are living on where you have everything that you need to be comfortable and able to survive, yet you know that your time living here is coming to an end soon. 

Now imagine that instead of appreciating the little time you have remaining on the island, you’re distracted, anxious and frustrated, too consumed by past memories and anticipation of the future. Where you never get the chance to truly exist during the final precious moments that you have left on this slice of tropical paradise.

That made up scenario draws many parallels to our lives. 

We all live on this incredibly fascinating planet called Earth, with most of us having all of the basic essentials that are needed to survive and feel comfortable. 

Yet instead of enjoying it and existing in the present, we dwell on the past and the future, getting so caught up in identifying with our thoughts that we miss out on seeing and living on the beautiful island that is our life. 

Living in this unconscious habitual state of teetering between past and future with minimal time focused on the present is a recipe for never attaining peace from our minds. 

In order to peel back the layers of consciousness and become more aware of our thoughts and our emotional responses to them, so that we can repeatedly return to the present and live in the now, the method of unlearning is necessary. 

Unlearning Identification with Thoughts 

Just like we learned through childhood to associate specific emotional reactions to certain thoughts, we can unlearn them in adulthood and find peace from mind. 

Think about a time when someone said something about you that wasn’t entirely true and how immediately a thought popped in your head (hey, that’s not true!) and in return made you feel a certain way (anger, frustration, etc), that led to a reaction (say something rude back about them). 

As Eckhart Tolle has said, “Emotions are the body’s reaction to our minds.”

We’ve developed these mental habits throughout our lives, but through the power of awareness and careful and continuous observation of our minds, as a kind of silent watcher, we can unlearn the ones that don’t serve us. 

We can start to see the situation unfold in front of us and watch the thoughts arise from a slightly detached perspective where we are no longer viewing it from “being the thought”.

This dimension of consciousness gives us the ability to choose whether or not to identify with the thought, and subsequently leads us to preventing the feelings of emotions and reactions that would typically follow rather involuntarily from occurring right on the spot. 

The more we think additional thoughts about a situation, the more energy we feed into it. Whereas the less we think about it, the less energy is allocated towards the event, allowing us to disentangle ourselves from the web of emotions that could have risen.

Having attained this potentiality, we can be indifferent and not a slave to our incessant stream of thoughts. This wisdom allows us to learn just how inefficient and unnecessary many of our thoughts are and marks the commencing of weeding them out. 

To be clear, this technique is very different from the act of suppressing thoughts and emotions. When you suppress, you push negative emotions down into the depths of your being where they marinate, boil and eventually become destructive when they are forced to be confronted, severely impacting the quality of your life. 

Choosing to disidentify with certain thoughts so that negative emotions are minimized or don’t sprout about at all and channeling that energy elsewhere is a much healthier approach. 

Unlearning the Focusing of our Attention on the Past and Future 

Just like we learned to focus most of our waking hours on the remembrance of the past and anticipation of the future, we can unlearn this vicious cycle and bring our attention back to the now.

This is where the ultimate vacation of all vacations exists, for the present is all there is and the only place peace from mind can be attained. 

Even if we experience it for glimpses at a time, it’s the source from which joy flows through.

With practice of remembering to return to the now and disidentification with the thoughts in our minds, enlightenment can be found, which is the realization that we have all that we need in these moments, for within them the past and future are of no concern, just the essence of being in the present. 

It definitely takes persistence, focus and hard work, but isn’t it worth working on so that instead of living with constant distraction, fear, anxiety and suffering, we can live in peace, see the beauty of our lives and appreciate whatever time we have left? 

“A busy mind can often rob you of peace of mind. The peace that we seek is not peace of mind, it’s peace from mind.” – Naval Ravikant 

We are not our thoughts

Our mind constantly produces thoughts that we have little to no control over. 

Even when we sleep it continues to operate, producing what we call dreams. Most of our dreams are random and bizarre, not making much logical sense due to the fact that we are unconscious.

What’s interesting is that if you take the time to pay attention to your thoughts while conscious, you’ll notice that they also don’t make much sense most of the time and that the majority of them don’t serve us very well. 

We are naturally wired to believe our thoughts to be true. 

We fail to see the separation between the thought itself and our awareness of it, we are simply the thought, fully immersed in it. 

But in reality, we are not our thoughts. As Eckhart Tolle put it, “You are not the thought, you are the awareness.” 

This statement has profound implications. 

Rather than mindlessly subscribing to the thoughts that we produce (on average, 80% of them being negative) and constantly feeding them more fuel through our focus of attention on them (up to 95% of our thoughts are repetitive) we can build a habit of putting them under further scrutiny. 

We can analyze the whispers that persist in the background as well as the louder ones at the forefront of our minds and make a conscious decision and effort to not identify with all of them.

We can question them and become more curious as to why they exist, and over time we can start to see the truth that our thoughts aren’t always the truth.

By recognizing a thought and using reasoning to not further feed into it, the thought will inevitably weaken and subdue (this can save us from a lot of the unnecessary pain and suffering).

It’s when we let our thoughts run wild and ungoverned that they get to dictate who we are. 

The power is in our hands to choose whether a thought is serving us or hurting us, and if it’s the latter we can use our awareness to shut them down and not believe ourselves to be those thoughts as they arise. 

Our thoughts are not always accurate and fact and we aren’t required to believe in all of them. They are simply a perpetually running machine of perceptions and impressions mostly out of our control and much too powerful to limit.

What we can do is create an environment where we start to notice the separation between us and them, and the incredible ability we have to decide to not believe all of them. Within this realm, we can feed the ones that we gain positive benefit from and discard the rest to naturally leave on their own (the effort it takes to strengthen a negative thought is the same amount of exertion it takes to reinforce a positive one). 

Ultimately, this provides us with more headspace for thoughts that we can leverage to lead much happier and fulfilling lives. 

Your life is a painting and you’re the painter. You may not know what exactly the painting will end up looking like, but you can choose what colors you will use to paint the canvas with. 

Below is a little poem I wrote to recap the article.

The thoughts are ceaseless,

The identification is absolute,

Yet the choice is ours to decide the truth.

We can feed what’s right and push aside what’s wrong,

We can begin to fine tune the thought machine to the beat of our own song.

So today is the start of no longer identifying with,

All the negativity that makes our life drift.

And instead replace it with focus on the positive and good,

So that the journey is filled with beauty, love and a happy livelihood. 

“The things you think about determine the quality of your mind. Your soul takes on the color of your thoughts.” – Marcus Aurelius 

How do you define Success?

Success is a powerful word that is open for interpretation. Many of us put it on a pedestal and only think of financial prosperity when we consider the word, or being recognized by the masses for an accomplishment.

When was the last time you asked yourself what success means to you?

Have you attained your definition of success? 

If you’re struggling to put into words what success is to you, then you simply don’t have a clear philosophy on it. 

Without a coherent understanding, you increase your chances of simply drifting through life without ever bathing in the emotions of feeling accomplished. 

Imagine a ship sailing the sea to a vague destination. Without the specific coordinates being put into the GPS, how can it expect to ever arrive at its end point? 

It can’t. It will end up going the wrong way or even worse, sailing directly into disaster. 

What’s great about this situation is that you can take time to reflect and not only decide what success means to you, but come to the realization of just how unrealistic and distorted your current version of the word is while also putting yourself on the path of achieving it. 

My definition of success can be summed up as having a philosophy of life and principles that are adhered to while always striving to further develop and improve my character so that I can embody the highest version of myself and make a positive impact on those around me. 

You’ve heard it many times before, but success is NOT a destination. 

You don’t become successful after one big event. 

A person can accumulate an extraordinary sum of money yet still not feel fulfilled, and as the great Tony Robbins says, “success without fulfillment is the ultimate failure.” 

Success is rather a lifestyle, a purposeful way of living. 

If you can live your life in alignment with your deepest convictions and focus on constantly bettering yourself (and those around you) while relishing in the emotions you want to feel throughout the process, you are a living success. 

At least in my eyes you are 🙂

So ask yourself the important questions. 

Gain clarity on and define what success really means to you so that you can acquire a lifetime of it throughout your journey here on earth. 

“Define success on your own terms, achieve it by your own rules, and build a life you’re proud to live.” – Anne Sweeney

How learning to want what you already have can transform your life

When you learn to want what you already have instead of focusing on attaining the things you don’t have, a sense of permanent satisfaction for your life can be obtained.

When this invaluable life skill is added to one’s arsenal, the true value of what we do have in life is clearly acknowledged, and it makes us realize with full awareness that they aren’t ours forever and can be taken away in an instant.

This knowledge enriches all of life’s experiences and the feelings that derive from recognizing each enriched experience is what we call being fulfilled. 

Ultimately, we all innately strive to live fulfilling lives. 

This leads us to the question: 

How exactly do we go about learning to want what we already have while not focusing on what we don’t have, so that we can achieve a sense of fulfillment?

Gratitude is the answer. 

By planting seeds of reminders to repeatedly focus your attention on what in your life you’re thankful for, a habit can form. 

This habit then begins to work in the background of your life, (through a network of neurons located in the brainstem called the Reticular Activating System, which filters out unnecessary information so that it can focus on bringing in more important information) unconsciously searching for references of what else can be brought into your conscious awareness to start appreciating more. 

Every time a brief conscious recognition of gratitude occurs for even the smallest thing, positive feelings are expressed from within, bringing you joy and happiness in that present moment. 

These emotions stay with you long after you knowingly realize and with consistency, they start to impact the wiring of your brain. 

This process, known as neuroplasticity, reprograms neural connections inside your brain, which in return leads to directly influencing your thoughts as well as your perceptions and how you understand things and give meaning to them.  

Through repetition over time, your subconscious will feed you new things to appreciate and different ways to be thankful for what you have, leading to a literal transformation in your brain and as a result, in your life. 

Makes you want to start practicing gratitude a bit more in your life, huh? 

Spending copious amounts of time mindlessly comparing ourselves to others and thinking about what they have that we don’t is a suckers game that provides us with no value and only brings rise to negative emotions. 

It’s when we focus our attention and thoughts toward the abundance of what we do have in this world that we begin to appreciate what’s most precious and priceless to us in the present moment. 

The garden of the soul lives in the now, where beautifully vibrant flowers of joy, peace and satisfaction are constantly springing about and flourishing. 

A sense of perpetual fulfillment in each moment is yours for the taking. 

Capture it through the practice of gratitude. 

Treat what you don’t have as non-existent. Look at what you have, the things you value most, and think of how much you’d crave them if you didn’t have them.” – Marcus Aurelius

The Philosophy of Life Blueprint

We all innately seek out to feel certain emotions. 

Joy, gratitude, success, peace, contentment, humility, fulfillment, a sense of meaning and purpose, contribution, etc.

But how come so few of us actually succeed in attaining these feelings consistently over the long term? 

How come instead of bathing in them on a daily basis, we live our lives chasing after them and typically come up partially or completely empty handed?

It’s my belief that the reason we lack the ability to feel these emotions on command is for the simple fact that we were never taught how to do so. 

And because we never learned this skill, the majority of us mindlessly wander through life struggling to truly feel alive.

Despite age or circumstance you can acquire the competency necessary to taking more control of your life and mastering the emotions you want to feel each day.

A Philosophy of Life 

It all starts here. 

The foundation which your life is built upon. 

The detailed roadmap that paves the path for you so that you can succeed at life.

One of the main reasons we typically feel a nagging sense of discontentment is for the fact that we are deep into the game of life without having ever learned the rules to winning. 

A philosophy of life holds the key and provides you with the necessary guidelines to follow. 

So what is a philosophy of life?

It could be a religion or an actual philosophy that has different modes of thinking that if followed enables one to have certain perspectives, as well as more clarity on what is important in life. 

For example sake, and because I have a philosophy of life that I practice, we will go with the Stoicism philosophy.

Below are some of Stoicisms most important perspectives/lessons:

-Life is impermanent, which means that we can lose anything and everything in our lives at any moment. Because of this, we must cultivate gratitude and appreciation for the present moment at all times since the “now” is all we truly have.

-There are a lot more things that we cannot control in life than there are things that we can control. Instead of spending most of our time focusing on what’s out of our control, which typically leads to the arising of negative emotions, we should work on what is in our power, such as our character. 

-Focus on what you do have (your body/health, food/shelter, family/friends, etc) and not what you lack (material possessions, status, etc). 

-Take time to think about what can (and in some cases will) go wrong in life and use it to increase your capacity to appreciate, as well as better prepare yourself for when it does happen. 

The above are a few of the Stoic guiding principles that are of the utmost importance to me and absolute top priorities that I fully believe in and practice each and every day. 

You must find your philosophy of life that speaks to your soul. 

But finding it is just one thing. 

Actually implementing its principles into your life is another story. 

So how does one become more grateful.

How does one strengthen their character and become successful in life?

This is achieved through mindfulness

Mindfulness is the answer 

By practicing meditation, you can start to “awaken” to the incredible and unique human ability to closely monitor and observe your mind. 

Instead of being fully engulfed and identified through every single thought, you can take a step back in your mind and simply notice them arise and fall.

This strategy leads to becoming much more aware of your daily thoughts, emotions, impulses, opinions and beliefs. 

The benefit of this is that it allows you to not just recognize, but also slowly begin to take conscious control of the dominating forces that are incessantly churning in your head. 

With enough practice, you can stop being a servant to your mind and actually take over the reins as the master of your mind. 

Attaining this superpower helps you steer those forces into alignment with your principles. 

Asking yourself the important question

So instead of asking yourself the conventional question, “what do you want to achieve in life”?, instead ask yourself “who do you want to become”? 

What principles from your philosophy of life do you want to embody? 

Daily seeds of reminders 

With increased awareness through meditation, you’ve become more conscious of what is going on in your mind. 

Now it’s possible to begin chipping away at the old and outdated habits and beliefs, the negative thoughts and judgements and emotions that arise, etc. 

You essentially can start to optimize your mind into focusing on, thinking and feeling the way you want it to (according to your principles). 

This is done by planting tiny seeds of reminders throughout your daily routine. 

In doing so, your ideal identity begins to take sprout. 

There are a multitude of ways to remind yourself to do these rituals, so it really comes down to preference and whichever is most effective for you. 

A few examples include:

-habit stacking – adding them to a habit that you already do each day, such as when you brush your teeth, go to the bathroom, take a sip of coffee, etc, 

-adding them to your phone’s calendar for a certain time of the day so that your phone notifies you of when to do it, 

-using a habit app that sends you a push notification to remind you to perform it

For increasing gratitude

Because gratitude is a major part of the philosophy of Stoicism, I’ve made it a priority of mine to practice ways to become more grateful for my life. This focus of attention has literally rewired my brain, enabling it to consciously pick up on new things to be grateful for throughout my day to day of living that I never would’ve recognized prior. With enough consistency and time, you can train your brain to do the same! 

The most important thing you can do is begin a Gratitude Journal. Each morning I think of three new things that I’m grateful for, ponder over them, as well as write them down in my journal. 

Below are a handful of other smaller seeds that I ensure to sprinkle throughout my days. Some are quotes or tiny reminders that I simply take the time to bring into my center of attention and experience in the present:

-“Do everything as if it were the last thing you were doing in your life.”

-“You can die at any moment, let that determine what you do, say and think.”

-Take brief moments to sit back in the mind and pay attention to my thoughts

-Look at life from someone else’s perspective.

-Don’t judge anyone or anything today

-Remember yourself: Try to simply remember yourself as often as possible, so that you can become aware of the present moment, your thoughts, the way you feel, etc. (We can not control when we are conscious but we can wire our minds/thoughts to focus on and bring about consciousness by directing it to what they’d experience during being conscious. Be more aware of yourself.”)

-What are the qualities in those you love/care about that you admire most about them?

-External considering: put yourself in another person’s shoes so that you can see yourself from another’s objective perspective.

-Prospective retrospection: thinking about this moment right now from the perspective of your future/older self, reminding yourself that right now you are living a life that your future self will miss and wish they can re-experience and live back in. 

-Negative visualization: thinking about losing the things that are most important to you in your life, experiencing them in vivid detail, and then realizing how much you appreciate them in your life right now. 

Others I try to remind myself of when I am in the midst of experiencing a certain trigger of emotion or impulse:

-“Coping calmly with this inconvenience is the price I pay for my inner serenity, for freedom from perturbation; you don’t get something for nothing.”

-Recognize incoming impulses, label them, try to not let their emotions take over, try to understand why they exist, and in that moment use your clear headed reasoning to make the decision not to allow them to disrupt your tranquility. 

-What would Marcus Aurelius think or do?

-What would someone who has much more humility than me think? 

-What’s great about this situation?

-How can I use this situation to my advantage in the future? 

For becoming successful in life and the person you want to be

Because character building is a major pillar of Stoicism, being a virtuous person that lives with integrity is an ongoing life goal of mine.  

By asking yourself questions like the few below, you can begin to paint a clear picture of who you genuinely want to be and provide yourself with a blueprint to follow.

-How does the person you want to be live on a daily basis? 

-What kind of emotions do you want to feel each day?

-What states of mind do you want to experience and how do you know if/when you’re experiencing them?

To wrap things up

As you go through the process of determining your philosophy of life and the principles that are most important to you, as well as begin to meditate and plant the daily seeds of reminders into your mind, your capacity to experience all of the emotions and states of mind that you want to feel will naturally expand. 

Prior, your mind would have been filled with static, having no real awareness or control over your life and living off of your conditioned impulses and habits. But now, similar to an antenna seeking to pick up a clear signal, having achieved mastery of your mind, you’ll be perfectly tuned into this new frequency and opportunities in your life will be bountiful. 

At this stage in the game of life, what more could we possibly want? 

It’s possible that the sense of fulfillment and contentment we feel within by living according to our philosophy of life’s principles are what we all truly seek in our lives that no other accomplishment can ever come close to matching.

The only way to find out for certain is to give it a try and find out for yourself. 

Your principles have life in them. For how can they perish, unless the ideas that correspond to them are extinguished? And it is up to you to be constantly fanning them into new flame.” – Marcus Aurelius

The Magic Power of your Imagination

Our unique human ability to have an imagination is something that most of us certainly take for granted.

If you take a moment to think about it, there is definitely some magic involved in the concept of utilizing your imagination.

To start off we can gain external inspiration, whether from another person or a group of people or possibly from a situation that unfolds in front of us. 

For example, we can see the way an influential person goes about living their life. Take for example Tony Robbins who inspires millions of people to better themselves and take control of their lives, while also living himself in a manner that aligns with what he preaches. 

From there a seed of thought or an idea can be planted within our mind. 

To continue with the example, Tony Robbins’ impact can inspire us to want to better ourselves, and even more specifically, live in a way that allows us to find happiness and appreciation for our life. 

We can then harness the power of our imagination to envision in the eye of our mind what that concept would look like in tangible form.

This could include visualizing the habits we’d need to instill into our life, the steps we’d need to take in order to implement them and imagining how that new and improved person would go about living their life and how it would feel having attained the goal. 

It’s been said that imagination is the key to motivation. 

Since our brains don’t know the difference between a real experience and a vividly imagined one, we can create the reality we seek through visualization paired with tremendous emotional intensity.

By taking the time to visualize and imagine, we can build up the courage, discipline and positive stimulation to work towards taking care of and growing that seed. 

Through consistent and continuous repetition over time, we can literally create what we imagined into physical form within our reality.

Magic is defined as “the power of apparently influencing the course of events by using mysterious or supernatural forces”, and the above scenario definitely describes that to a T! 

Typically we stop using our imagination as often as we age, piling on the excuses that we don’t have the time, that we are fearful of what others would think or that we have too many other responsibilities to do so or to even entertain our imagined ideas. 

This is a sad fact in today’s society, but it doesn’t have to remain this way. 

We have the rare potential to literally envision ideas and concepts in our mind, blend them into the cocktail of our own individual references, experience, perspectives and beliefs in life, and then magically create them into our world. 

Don’t undervalue yourself and your potential. 

Don’t let your imagination muscle atrophy. 

Harness the wizardry powers of being able to imagine and take maximum advantage of it. 

“Anything real begins with the fiction of what could be. Imagination is therefore the most potent force in the universe.” – Kevin Kelly

Existence over Consumption

With worldwide news being instantly available to us on a 24/7 loop, and the vast majority of that information being bad news, it’s no wonder that a negative attitude towards many aspects of life has become a common and pervasive outlook in this modern age. 

Most of us consume and consume and consume, from the moment we wake up until the final minutes before we go to bed. 

Have you ever stopped for a second to think if there’s a better way to live? 

Wouldn’t you agree that a life with a little less consumption would do our minds and souls a lot of good? 

Imagine a life where we take a mental break from technology, even for just 30 minutes to an hour at first and expand from there, where we simply just exist and learn to recover from the unhealthy habit and addiction of needing to constantly grab our phones to check social media or the news every few minutes. 

Why not try to pursue a healthier daily routine that is filled with extended periods of complete disconnection from the rest of the world, where you spend time intentionally existing in the present moment, self reflecting and discovering who you are, just to see how it makes you feel? 

We call ourselves human beings, yet ever since smartphones and social media and push notifications came into our lives we rarely have even a split second of time to just “be”. 

We are all attracted to the idea of having peace of mind, feeling more calm and composed (especially during stressful situations) and living in periodic states of joy and contentment, yet our actions typically push us further away from attaining them. 

The solution isn’t complex. 

Stop overdosing on consumption. 

Take charge of your mind and your actions. 

Make the time each day to do what nature has prescribed for us all. 

Just exist. 

With consistency, the results will forever change your life for the better. 

“Disconnect with the world. Reconnect with yourself.”

Harnessing the Vacation Mindset

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When we go on most vacations, once we arrive at our destination we typically settle into a calm and relaxed mood. 

If it’s a tropical trip, we lay out by the water and soak up the sun’s rays. We become more aware of our new surroundings and radiate a sense of relief and appreciation for the time off and escape from reality. 

Throughout the trip surges of excitement and laughter fill the air, especially when we are enjoying our vacation with those we love and care about. We express our gratitude for the memories and experiences we are creating in that moment and truly feel them.

Just reading the above can place you into a more peaceful state of mind and remind you of a past trip that you took, and that was the point of it!

Now, what if I told you that it was possible to harness the “vacation” mindset without having to go on vacation? 

That you can live with those feelings of emotions throughout each and every day of your life, EVEN if you don’t absolutely love the life that you’re currently living? 

Well, it’s possible and if you take the time to read the below and apply it into your life, your world will change for the better almost instantly. 

The average person has about 16 waking hours each day, of which typically around 8 of them, excluding most weekends, are spent working. 

With just 2-3 weeks of vacation time each year, we are talking about roughly half of our waking hours in our life being dedicated to work (potentially more if your thoughts, emotions and actions before and after work are focused on work related matters and concerns).

The bad news about these facts is that we spend a LOT of time working, the good news is that we have a LOT more time than we realize to spend how we choose to. 

Whether you know it or not, every impulse, habit and belief that you have was created either by your family and friends while growing up or by yourself over the years. And just as they were created, the ones that aren’t beneficial to living your best life can be eliminated and recreated. 

The Vacation mindset is composed of three primary habits. If you intentionally plant these seeds into your mind and make the effort to water and nurture them, they can and will grow into beautiful and flourishing trees with roots and branches that extend into the lives of those you love. 

The three habits are: Meditation, Practicing Gratitude and Visualization.


It’s well known today that meditation has many positive benefits, it can make you more calm and peaceful, heighten your awareness, recognize your thoughts, help you sleep better, etc. 

By taking the time in the morning to meditate (even for a few minutes) you can start your day in a relaxed manner. Many underestimate the power of meditation and just how much of an impact it can make on one’s life. 

When you meditate and focus on simply recognizing your thoughts each time one comes about, (then returning to your breathing, or the sensations of your body, or the sounds that you’re hearing) without judgement but simple recognition of the thought, you’re starting to train yourself to catch your thoughts as they happen. 

This exercise then begins to spill into your day to day life, allowing you to become mindful of the thoughts you’re thinking in your mind and actively deciding whether or not they serve you and should be pursued or quickly shot down and put to rest. 

Meditate in the morning and you’ll soon notice how much more clear your mindset and approach is towards the rest of your day. 

Practicing Gratitude

When you take the time to think about what you’re grateful for (I recommend thinking about three different things each day, and writing them down) you shift your focus from your typical daily cares and concerns to intentionally contemplating things that have tremendous meaning and purpose in your life

When you’re grateful for a certain quality that you possess, maybe that you acquired from a parent, you start to feel the appreciation you have for your mother or father, as well as the pride and humility you have that you’ve taken it upon yourself to instill that quality into your life. 

When you’re grateful for something that you were born with that was simply provided to you the moment you took your first breath (if you’ve been fortunate to possess these), such as your ability to breathe, your legs or arms or eyes or heart, you start to realize how for decades it’s always performed its function without you ever having to do anything for it. What an incredible thing to think about and feel, right!?

As you practice this for a few minutes consistently (could even be repeated a few times each day), the effects begin to compound over time. 

You start to seek out more and more of what you’re grateful for throughout your day, and when you take the time to not just think about what you’re thankful for but actually feel it, your life begins to transform as well as for others around you. 


Just like when you’re on vacation and you envision how life would be if you could do this forever, you can apply that same technique into your daily living.

By taking the time to visualize yourself meditating and practicing gratitude, and trying to recreate the scene as vividly as possible in your mind, you begin to produce the feelings that derive from actually performing those exercises.

Since the mind cannot tell the difference between a real experience and an extremely detailed one performed through visualization, there’s nothing stopping you from enjoying these powerful effects on a daily basis. 

Now you may be thinking a handful of rebukes to the above, but just realize that despite your present circumstances, you have much more control over the way you think, feel, act, and react than you currently give yourself credit for. 

If you’re not happy with certain aspects of your life that you have decided cannot be improved (which is more of a you problem than the actual problem), you can at least learn to put up with them from a new light by cultivating these three habits into your lifestyle (after all, wouldn’t it be better to go through life this way?). 

You can harness the Vacation mindset and become similar to a thermostat, where your energy and presence instantly regulates the temperature of any place you may find yourself to your positive level of being, undoubtedly uplifting all others around you. 

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“Do everything as if it were the last thing you were doing in your life”

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There are endless cliches about living your best life. 

Live every day like it’s your last. You only live once, and so on.

While you’ve most likely heard these hundreds of times, have you ever taken a moment to really contemplate the meaning behind them?

In one of the greatest books of all time (Meditations by the Roman Emperor Marcus Aurelius, written nearly 2,000 years ago) Marcus said:

Do everything as if it were the last thing you were doing in your life.” 

Imagine what our lives would be like if we strived to keep this at the top of our mind day in and day out.

By putting in the effort to intentionally experience each thing we do in life as if it literally was the final moments of our existence, our entire world and perspective would change instantly. 

Life would take on a much deeper significance and meaning. 

This technique would bring a heightened sense of awareness to the present, enabling us to live in the moment without distractions about the past or the future. 

Our capacity for appreciating and seeing the beauty in our lives as well as the love and compassion we have for others would increase tenfold. 

Time is finite. 

We all know for certain that one day our time will come to depart from this world. 

Instead of drifting through life and allowing our impulses to dominate our state of mind, we can apply this concept and find the positive in nearly everything that we do (even the things that we don’t always enjoy doing). 

We can inject a sense of urgency into the here and now and unlock the treasure chest of gratitude that is within all of us, leading to an enriched life filled with passion for simply being alive. 

While it may not be realistic to live this way all the time, this method could be a valuable tool to enhance life during both good and bad times, when emotions arise of both positivity and negativity. 

Tony Robbins once said, “If you can learn to love, or at least appreciate, start to enjoy the things you used to get upset about, how much freedom would you have? How much more joy would you have?

As you journey onwards with this insight and new point of view in mind, if you find yourself struggling to enjoy many parts of your day to day, then take it as a sign to make a change in your life for the better. 

All we have is right now. Why not ensure we can make the best of it? 

You could leave life right now. Let that determine what you do and say and think.” – Marcus Aurelius

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Icing on the Cake Perspective

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I realize that many people struggle in their lives, dealing with a wide range of negative emotions and thoughts on a daily basis.

Regret for not taking advantage of past opportunities or making the wrong decision during a pivotal moment. 

Stress and anxiety when it comes to finances and being able to pay the bills and afford a way of living. 

Unhappiness with a career (or lack thereof) that doesn’t provide the chance for advancement.

But what if there was a better approach to all of this? What if there was a way to change your views on life so that your daily 50,000 or so thoughts (the majority being the same more or less as yesterdays and the day before) aren’t dominated by negativity but instead with feelings of gratitude and possibility? 

I call this the Icing on the Cake Perspective.

Right now you are alive (that’s your cake!). 

You got out of bed this morning (willingly or unwillingly is beside the point) and you are breathing, feeling, thinking, and experiencing life. 

Think for a moment about the thousands of people that die each and every day. From the ones who were sick, to those who got in an accident, to those that simply went to bed and never woke up. 

You are living. You have the precious opportunity to continue experiencing the most incredible thing that we as a species are capable of fathoming. Life. 

Your past is over and done with. The decisions you made back then are kaput, but the ones you decide to make right now are in your control.

Why not look at this present moment, and all the future potential moments that may come as an added bonus, as icing on the cake for your life?

Instead of taking the same old run down perspective that’s filled with negativity, it’s in your power to view everything from a refreshingly new vantage point. 

We all have problems to deal with, some increasingly more significant than others. But at least you have the opportunity to work on and get through them, to learn from them, to become a better and improved person because of them.

Just ask yourself: would you rather be dead?

Our time on this planet is transient. We all understand this superficially, but it’s critical to truly comprehend the magnitude of this statement. 

One day we will die. 

One day will be our very last day. 

That means that there will be a final time that we get to experience many of the things in life worth living for, and we most likely won’t even know it

If something is important to you that you don’t do often enough or at all, make the time to do it. 

If you’ve wanted to make a positive life change but have been too fearful to take the first step, make the time to do it. 

If your life is currently not on the path that you want it to be on, make the time to change it. 

As Paul Graham said, “Cultivate a habit of impatience about the things you most want to do.” 

Do not wait. 

Leave your past where it is. 

Take the present and every future moment you’re fortunate to be blessed with from an icing on the cake perspective.

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